As a daughter, mother and grandmother myself (as well as an adoptee), the focus of Mother’s Day is one that has often been a difficult day for me. As a daughter I never lived with my own biological mother but instead had foster mothers until I was adopted by my maternal grandmother.

As an adoptee who resides in the northeastern part of the US, the month of April and her ongoing fickleness do little to surprise me. Case in point, a week ago we had 50 degree days with brilliant sunshine… today we are having a beautiful snowstorm. 

As an adoptee, I learned how to adapt to my immediate environment rather quickly, almost by instinct. Learning how to read people around me and how to act in response became a survival skill. Seldom did anyone know that I was an adoptee, , so it made my task even easier.

Adoption is a unique journey that brings with it a tapestry of emotions, identity questions, and a quest for belonging. In the intricate dance of self-discovery, adoptees often face challenges that eventually make self-care a crucial aspect of their well-being.

This month’s blog is dedicated to the business happenings of this past year, 2023. I, in particular, often forget to acknowledge all the events that have helped grow Adoptee Counseling. So, here they are:

It used to be that I dreaded this month for all the reasons an adoptee might do. This included trying to be happy about family gatherings, gift giving and always making sure everyone got just the right gift. They couldn’t be just the “right gift”, they had to receive the “perfect” gift.

November has been designated as National Adoption Month.

The month of October is most predominantly about change, and with it comes Halloween, a time of costumes, make believe, and trick or treat.

Adoptees are pros at adapting. The question is… do we do so willingly or are we forced to change?  I think its fair to say that adapting is a bit of both, at least for me it has been.

As adoptees, the language we speak and know best is adapting. Along with this, comes resiliency…

This month has reminded me of the superpowers I have created for myself. And yes, this as a result of being an adoptee with years of experience both personally and professionally with handling crises.

So why would someone contact an Adoptee Coach?

There' are a few reasons…